Questions to Ask to Release Your Insecurities

It’s such an icky feeling. Your day can be going totally normal and then you’re faced with it. Something was said, or you scrolled past something and boom- insecurity is triggered. What happens next is a series of feelings ranging from unworthiness to comparison. It doesn’t feel good and your day has been interrupted. You’re sick of it and just wish it could magically disappear. If this insecurity could just go away you’d feel so much better about yourself. You’d let your guard down more, you’d speak up more, and you’d feel more comfortable in your skin. You feel like you wouldn’t obsess over it and you could finally be free.

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We all have our own insecurities and the way we work with or against them is unique to the individual. When you think about it, you’ll realize that this insecurity had to have a starting point. It began somewhere years ago and your mind and body held onto it. The event that occurred was traumatic to some degree and it wasn’t fully able to be processed and let go. Now it’s something you try to ignore when it pops up, willing to do anything just to make it go away.

Insecurities are rooted in painful experiences from your past. When we ignore the experience and shove the “bad” feelings out, we are actually extending the pain we are trying to forget. The wound continues to stay with us the longer we ignore it. In order to “make it go away,” you have to look at it first. You need to understand that the way you fix this is by going inward. What is going inward? Going inward is looking at yourself and asking yourself mindful questions that help you understand yourself.

You have the ability to bring your insecurities to the surface and let them go. Let me repeat that, you have the ability to bring your insecurities to the surface and let them go. I want you to be free. This isn’t something that happens overnight, healing is a process, but in order to begin your process, you have to start somewhere.

This is going to be uncomfortable work, looking at our insecurities doesn’t quite feel warm and fuzzy. However, if you are wanting to be free and begin to take ownership of your thoughts and emotions, it will be well worth it.

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QUESTIONS TO BRING INSECURITIES TO THE SURFACE:

  • I feel the most insecure when:
  • What do I feel when I consider myself to be in a state of insecurity?
  • When was the last time I felt this way?
  • What is the event that happens (trigger) to remind me of this insecurity?

QUESTIONS TO RELEASE THE INSECURITY:

  • How long have I been telling myself this story?
  • When was the last time this story was actually true? If ever?
  • What typically plays out in reality?
  • Am I in the same situation I was in when this insecurity originated?

ACTIONS TO TAKE TO RELEASE THE INSECURITY:

  • Write a letter to your past self. Write the letter to the age you were when the insecurity developed. Time travel in your mind. Lovingly explain to your past self that you no longer need to hold onto this feeling. Let your past self know that you are in a new place in life and that this feeling has been limiting and you are ready to let it go.
  • Practice affirmations. “I am _______” list out 5 things that are the opposite of your insecurity. Write these out daily for the next 30 days. If your insecurity is feeling unworthy, your affirmation would be “I am worthy” or “I am needed” or “I am valuable” etc… this is for you Write out what you need to hear.
  • Notice your triggers. The next time your insecurity pops up, tell it to leave. Remind it that it is no longer welcome to take away your energy.

GET YOUR SELF ANALYSIS: UNDERSTANDING YOUR INSECURITIES HERE!

Don’t give up. Do this exercise for 30 days and see how your mindset begins to change. Stay consistent with this practice and know that you hold the power of your mind.

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