Spotting the Ego

It used to bother me when people would point out that I was sensitive or that I “always took things personally”. I remember hearing this from my mom when I was young and a lot in my Corporate job. I didn’t like it because it somehow made me sound weak.

If you read that last sentence closely you will see a word that reveals the ego. It is hiding in the word “me“. I associated sensitivity and taking things personally as weak.

How did I get to this conclusion? Simple. It seemed to be proven that the vulnerable girl was the weak one. I took on that identity or fought it rather, based on the evidence from my conditioning.

When you react to something, you strengthen your ego. Every time I had a label placed on me that “I” didn’t identify with, my ego would strengthen through reaction.

“I HATE WHEN YOU SAY I TAKE EVERYTHING PERSONALLY!”

“I’M NOT SENSITIVE, I JUST HAVE FEELINGS LIKE EVERY OTHER HUMAN!”

Although the ego seems to be making good points, it’s still the ego. I wasn’t operating in awareness. I know this because I had identified with the thought. I thought I needed to prove that I wasn’t a sensitive girl. This is the definition of ego. So how can you become more aware when this is happening?

Your ego pops up in a few ways:

  • When you complain 
  • When you react
  • When you want to be “right”
  • When you become defensive

This is your ego, not you. You are the one who is aware of your thoughts, you are not the thoughts themselves.

You practice separating from the ego by:

  • being in the present moment
  • observing your thoughts
  • recognizing when the ego is operating

EACH TIME THE EGO IS RECOGNIZED, IT LOSES SOME OF ITS POWER.

This is exactly what the 2nd half of Stepping into Consciousness covers, the ins and outs of ego and how to mindfully create separation.

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